not know what to think of this whole marriage thing." As a self-styled straight shooter, let me fire off some bullet points on the I do's and I don't of marriage:
- Having not yet been married, I feel as though I can give the most objective advice compared to those who have been married for one and a half years or 24 years. Without that actual life experience to skew my perspective, I can give a cut and dried, one size fits all, piece of advice on matrimony. I mean, really, would you ask your grandparents who have been married for 60 years to give advice on what a healthy marriage entails? Yeah, I didn't think so.
- So in regard to Mr. Smith's argument that marriage is all about making the other person happy, I, Mr. Schmidt, can only think I sure hope for a lot of people's sake a lot of people take him seriously. Then, the rest of us can go out and find THOSE people, and voila - we have potential mates who are bent entirely on making US happy, with no effort required on our behalf. And going with Mr. Smith's experience, finding that person at age 15 is even better, saving you from ever learning how to be a self-sufficient human being prior to contemplating a seriously committed relationship!
- And Ms. Greenthal gets it right when she advocates tossing out notions of compatibility such as similar values or background related to your future spouse. In short, don't THINK about it! With a divorce rate of 50% in the USA, we all know that marriage is about how you FEEL about the person in the short term, not some long term gig. So yes, she's totally right when she advocates making sure the other person makes YOU happy.
- This is America. We pursue our own, individual happiness, using whoever or whatever means necessary; it's in our "Declaration of Independence." Finding life's purpose in our relationships with others is not in our patriotic vocabulary. Because if we find either ourselves or our spouses are not being made happy in a marriage, we can call upon the highest American value of all - Freedom. And freedom from marriage is, as we know all too well, divorce.